The idea that you keep yourself from happiness, love and good health seems outrageous. Why would you do that?

Your life is carved out by a serious of thoughts, unconscious memories, perceptions and behaviors that are birthed from earlier life experiences. Now buried deep in your unconscious mind. They shape you into who you are today. These emotional memories run your life and affect every aspect of you, including:

  • Who you are as a person
  • How you feel about yourself
  • How you communicate

To liberate you or to “know the self” you want to journey into the unconscious. This means you want to walk through the ego mind and hypothetically come out the other side where the true self lives.

How to Change Patterns

To change patterns, you must first identify the source of trauma or stress. The two best ways to identify patterns include the following:

  • See them as a reflection in someone else
  • Do something out of your comfort zone

See them as a reflection in someone else

It’s challenging to see your own issues. The best way to see them is in another person. Your family, friends and even strangers reflect back to you anything that requires healing. As well as, all the beautiful things you love about yourself.

The best advice is to criticize your best friend or sister/brother or me. Whatever you have to say is an unconscious belief you are holding about yourself. Sometimes it’s exactly what you see and other times you might have to dig a little deeper to get the issue.

Do something out of your comfort zone

When you do something out of your comfort zone, the ego-mind voices your unconscious patterning. For example, you want something and upon learning the price the first thing you say is, “I can’t afford that”. This knee-jerk reaction is an old pattern living in the unconscious mind.

First you want to identify the issue using the two examples above.  Once you find the issues, you’ll need to make a mental effort to shift the old way into a new way.

Let’s go back to “I can’t afford that” you want to ask yourself, “Where have I heard this before in my life?”  Was it a parent saying it to you in childhood?  Let’s say it was. Now you have identified the original situation.

For the next step, you want to change your reaction. Instead of saying “I can’t” you want to say “I can” or “I can afford this.”

The final step in this emotional healing process is to convince yourself that you can afford something. It’s not a mental, “Okay I can afford this” type of remark. You need to actually feel the shift viscerally in your body and then your mind will shift too.

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